Paternity in Question: Woman Marries Late Husband’s Brother, Her Son Finds Out They Had an Affair Long Before His Passing, Spilling Family Secrets for All the Siblings

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Oct 8, 2024 2:00 PM EDT

Welcome back internet enthusiasts. Living a life predicated on lies can eat someone to their core. I couldn't imagine hiding my reality from friends, family, or loved ones. Being open, earnest, and honest will save slews of headaches for the future. When you lie, you have to think about how it will affect the other person. Of course, we usually lie not only to be selfish, but to protect other people involved. It's all about being guileful about keeping the lie a secret. 

In this Reddit thread, it's from the perspective of a young woman who comes from a family who has just experienced a reveal so earth shattering that all her siblings are going no contact with their mother. The woman's father passed away when she was young, and her uncle came into the picture and took his place, caring for the children as his own, and married their mother. They seemed like a happy enough family, until the mother's diary reveals a secret that sunders their once happy family. 

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    r/AITAH 19 hr. ago throwwramomhurt Aitah for refusing to forgive my mom and uncle for what they did to dad?
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    When I (23f) was 9, my dad passed away in an accident. It was hard for me and my brothers (25m and 21m) because all of us were very close to dad. Mom was a SAHM so suddenly she was without support and things became really tough for us in the next few months.
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    After a year or so, our uncle (Dad's younger brother) contacted mom and began visiting us regularly. He took good care of us and helped out a lot. We all really liked him. He later asked mom out and she said yes. It was strange to see her with him but we were young and wanted her to be happy. Our
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    uncle also promised to take care of us. I did grow to see him as a step dad and loved him like that. They were married 3 years after dad died and they have 2 kids. too.
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    My brothers and I really did love him and were happy for mom. We never felt like dad was replaced because both mom and uncle were very "respectful" about his place in our lives.
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    A few months ago, my brother (25m) was clearing out the attic at our old house and found mom's diary. Turns out mom had been having an affair with dad's brother for years and she admitted to seriously doubting whether all or any of us were really dad's or not. It was
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    disgusting to learn about all this so many years later. Dad had only recently learned of the affair and a few weeks later he was dead. I guess now I know why he suddenly became an alcoholic and decided to drive and drink despite having kids and always telling us to think of family before taking risky decisions.
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    Brother confronted mom and everything sort of blew up. Uncle tried to intervene but brother almost attacked him. It was unbelievable really. We had been a happy almost normal family for years since dad passed and now its completely wrecked. Both my brothers have cut off mom completely and any mention of
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    them not being dad's results in them hurling all sorts of insults at mom. My half siblings have become withdrawn and don't really talk to mom either. Most of our family is shunning her and our uncle. He keeps saying he just loved mom and nothing else. He tried saying he loved us whether we were his or not. But it only makes me feel more disgusted.
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    Mom recently called me and she was begging me to talk to my brothers and asking that we get back together and that we shouldn't throw away the family and home we'd built up over the years. She says she mourned dad for years and she was respectful of him for years before getting
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    with uncle which I called told her I didn't want to see her and there is no way any of us can forgive her for what she did to dad. Mom said I was being needlessly cruel and it was vile to throw her out of our lives after she cared for us all these years. My bf agrees with her. Aitah?
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    Top-Spite-1288 • 19h ago • NTA - this is rough! Mom is blaming you guys for breaking up a family, but that family was based on lies and she lied to you over years and never came clear. Your dad turning to alcohol and die in a car crash for
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    drunk driving and then you finding out, that his alcohol abuse started when he found out about his wife cheating on him with his brother makes everything so much worse! They literally drove him into alcohol abuse, that lead to his untimely death, robbing you
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    of your father! This is so awful! And both don't even own up on their mistakes "I only did it for love!" Nope! He did it for himself! Next thing you know: "But we are family!" so was your dad! And see what they did to him! ... I don't even have words ...
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    Big-One-4048 • 19h ago • You and your brothers are not throwing away the family. She did, years ago. Definitely NTA. The way they trying to make this something like romantic thing is disgusting.
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    thejackalreborn • 19h ago • It was unbelievable really. You can say that again! Your mom is so foolish for keeping a diary with such explosive secrets
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    luscious_britta... • 18h ago • NTA I would do way worse if I was in your situation. You're a good person OP. I sincerely hope you will not experience this kind of trauma again later in your life.
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    orangepuffgirl • 19h ago You're not the for refusing to forgive your mom and uncle after discovering the betrayal; it's completely understandable to feel hurt and disgusted by their actions, especially given how it impacted your
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    given how it impacted your father's life and your family dynamics.
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    ljgyver 17h ago • Timeline. If it is possible that your eldest brother could be the uncle's then the affair was going on for at least 12 years prior to your Father's death. 12 years!! 3 possible pregnancies. How long were
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    they even married before the affair started? You should all get your DNA tested so at least you know who your bio father is. If they could lie to all of you for all those years and instead of your mother divorcing your father, slowly
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    cause his death, then that is not love. Not for anyone. What was your mother getting from your father? If she loved the brother she should have gotten a divorce and married him. The brother should have spoken to your father rather than watching him kill
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    than watching him kill himself.
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    Head-Impress1... • • 17h ago • "We shouldn't throw away the family" No. SHE threw away the family by her husbands brother
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